Valentine’s Day Isn’t Just About Romance: The Power of Friendship and Platonic Love

Valentine’s Day has a way of narrowing our definition of love, placing romance at the forefront of what we should be celebrating. Bell Hooks reminds us otherwise: “Deep, abiding friendships are the place where many women know lasting love” (a truth that applies across genders). Decentering romantic love doesn’t mean devaluing it, it means realizing that it is not more valuable than platonic love, even if society frequently treats it that way.

Close friendships are some of the most underestimated relationships in our lives. They are where we are known deeply, challenged to become better, and accepted for who we are, as we are. The magic we see in movies and dream about as kids is not only found in romantic relationships. It is also found in shared meals with friends, long conversations, laughter on ordinary days, and the peace of knowing you have someone celebrating your wins and supporting you through your losses. These moments aren’t placeholders while you wait for a romantic partner, they are life.

This Valentine’s Day, remember that you don’t need a romantic relationship to mark your life as meaningful. A connected, fulfilling life is built through friendship, community, and self-love.

Simple Ways to Invest in Friendship This Valentine’s Day

• Go on a journaling date! Research a cute coffee shop and journal together.

• Plan a Galentine’s walk, hike, brunch, or workout class.

• Send a friend a handwritten letter or note, maybe even surprise them with some flowers!

• Cook the same meal together (in person or FaceTime) and eat “together.”

• Do a puzzle or Lego night with snacks and no phones.