September 10th is World Suicide Prevention Day. In order to support ourselves or those we love, it can be important to bring awareness to the signs of someone who might be suicidal, ways to support them, and resources to share with them. Take good care while reading this article, as it has the potential to bring up heavy feelings.
Supporting someone who is having suicidal thoughts begins with reducing stigma. Generally speaking, suicidal thoughts offer a way out of indescribable pain and suffering. Suicide is not selfish. When there is no hope for change, a part of us might feel the only way to escape our pain is leaving this earth. There is no shame in these thoughts. This part of us deserves care and understanding that it is just trying to protect us and ease our suffering. However, we know that pain is temporary and suicide isn’t the only option, even if it feels like it in the moment. There is always hope. You are not alone and you do not need to navigate the heaviness of your pain by yourself.
What are the warning signs of someone who is suicidal?
Talking about suicide. When someone talks about self-harm or suicide, always take it seriously. There is no such thing as “attention seeking” when it comes to suicide.
Isolating. A suicidal person might feel they are a burden to others and in efforts to not hurt those they love might withdraw from those most important in their lives.
Obtaining means for suicide. This might look like weapons, prescription medications, or otherwise planning for suicide or death.
Increase in drug or alcohol use. Alcohol and drug use can increase impulsivity, and many times people who attempt suicide do so on an impulse.
I think someone I love is suicidal. What should I do?
Talk. Know that talking about suicide does not increase someone’s likelihood of attempting suicide.
Listen. Create space for your loved one to talk about their experience. Don’t interrupt. Know that offering a nonjudgmental listening ear could save their life.
Be direct. Ask questions like “Are you thinking about hurting yourself?” or “Are you considering suicide?”
Plan. If your loved one is isolating, plan to spend time with them. If they have weapons in the home, offer to take them for a while. Make sure they have the suicide hotline number.
Connect. Know that you may need support too. Talk to neutral people about how this has impacted you and allow yourself to be supported too.
Resources:
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline:
1-800-273-8255 or text HOME to 741741
Substance Abuse/Mental Health Helpline
1-800-622-HELP
RAINN Sexual Assault Hotline
1-800-656-HOPE
Domestic Violence Hotline:
1-800-799-7233
LQBTQIA+ Hotline:1-888-843-4564
The Trevor Project Hotline for LGBTQIA+ youth:
1-866-488-7386 or text TREVOR to 202-304-1200
As always, we are here if you’d like some extra support. Call 480-815-3211 or email info@findyourshinetherapy.com to schedule a free, 10-minute phone consultation with one of our providers.
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